Hey y’all! Today’s Day in the Life comes from full-time writer Alycia Curtis of Wedshock, a company that helps prepare, support and console brides and newlyweds.
Man, do I wish this resource was around when I was planning my wedding! Planning my wedding was…not the most enjoyable task for me (just bein’ honest!) and I often felt like I had no idea what I was doing or what I wanted.
I could also really relate to Alycia’s first words on having to be okay with pivoting (and pivoting often for me) which was something I wasn’t expecting as an entrepreneur.
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Day in the Life: Alycia Curtis of Wedshock.com
The general feedback I get when I tell people what I do sounds something like this:
Oh my god! You’re a full-time writer and entrepreneur? That’s so cool! What’s it like? I’m so jealous! Aren’t you so happy? I’m sure it’s so wonderful-fantastic-amazing…
About 95% of the time, I smile and nod and say, “you’re right, it’s great.” But the other 5% of the time, I put it all out there because, well, they asked.
The truth is, when you work for yourself, you have to be an organized, self-motivated, creative, disciplined, consistent visionary with an attention to detail that would make a brain surgeon proud. And sure, no one is checking up on you to see if you did your work, but they’re also not telling you what to do next either.
You have to be totally comfortable with ambiguity, pivoting, and tossing out bad ideas as soon as you realize they’re bad—even if they cost you an arm and a leg and months of your time.
And when things go wrong, there’s no one to blame but yourself. You’d be surprised just how traumatic that can be.
I started Wedshock, a bridal and newlywed brand dedicated to the idea that they’re way more to marriage than happily ever after. Our mission is to prepare, support and console brides and newlyweds on the crazy, stressful, wild ride of engagement and new marriage.
It’s pretty freakin’ fantastic.
I love talking to brides and newlyweds about their fears, joys, and questions as they navigate the insanity of “I do.” And, in my opinion, there’s no better way to clean up the mess we’ve made than by raising up a generation of wholehearted marriages and strong families.
In addition to running the website and writing articles, I’ve created a full suite of vow writing products to help brides write meaningful, memorable wedding vows for their big day. I wrote a book, created a journal workbook, and even recorded a video course. The past year has been all about product development, so I had to be really intentional about my daily rhythms.
My morning ritual is my favorite part of the day. Mornings are all about soul care.
As soon as I wake up, I do a morning-mosey over to my morning seat—the corner of our big, cozy couch. I start my day by reading a spiritual or self-help book while I drink 24 oz. of water. Then, I pour fresh coffee from the Swell that my husband prepared for me in a mug, and I write in my journal. After that, I’ll do a 15-minute meditation guided by the Headspace app. Meditation has been revolutionary for me, and I only started doing it earlier this summer. My meditation is always followed by a prayer of gratitude and guidance for the days ahead.
Throughout the day, I typically eat really well. I try to balance my macros (carbs, proteins, and fats) and eat fruits and veggies every day. Lately, I’ve been counting calories in order to become more aware of how much I’m eating during the day. That’s one of the hardest things about working from home—my kitchen in 20 steps away at any given moment.
I have a list of things that I try to be intentional about every day. My brain tends to be scattered, so I keep a daily tracker to be sure that I’m in line with my big picture goals on a daily basis. A tracker typically looks something like this:
This system looks more intense than it feels in practice. As a matter of fact, it gives me confidence that I’m always tracking towards my big picture goals for the year, and it gives me the space to have grace with myself when I’m having a not-so-productive day.
Here’s what a day in the life of Alycia Curtis looks like:
6:00 – 7:00 am
7:00 – 7:20 am
Read Spiritual or Self Help Book. Typically something by one of my favorite authors like Rob Bell, Brene Brown, or Elizabeth Gilbert.
7:20 – 7:30 am
Write in Journal. This is sacred space for me. I’ve kept a journal since I learned how to write. Journaling is my way of sorting through my thoughts and experiences.
7:30 – 7:45 am
15 Minute Headspace Meditation. This has been a game changer for my mindfulness practice.
7:45 – 8:00 am
Time in prayer
8:00 – 9:00 am
Eat breakfast, make the bed, straighten up the apartment, get dressed in workout clothes, and general dawdling.
9:00 am – 12:00 pm:
Writing Block. This is my dedicated writing time. I’m freshest in the morning, and it’s typically my most consistent creative time of day. I occasionally have a creative evening, but I can’t count on it as much.Take a peek inside a Day in the Life of the owner of @wedshock, Alycia Curtis! #DITL Click To Tweet
12:00 – 2:30 pm
Eat lunch, practice spanish with my Duolingo app, and workout. I do a daily cardio workout, and I’ll add weight training in three times a week. Then, I finish with my daily yoga practice, which is typically solely restorative.
2:30 – 6:00 pm
Answer emails, manage social media, and big picture work tasks. If I’m not being productive within the first hour, I’ll typically call it a day.
6:00 – 9:30 pm
I cook dinner every night, spend time with friends, watch Netflix, or clean up the apartment and purge…a new thing since following The Minimalists. Around 8:00 pm, I put my phone away for the evening. I like to spend at least half of my day away from it, so I’ll put it in a different room where I can’t see it from 8:00 pm – 8:00 am.
9:30 – 10:30 pm
I turn off all of my screens, check my daily tracker, and get ready for bed. After this is done, I’ll read until bedtime and/or spend time with Zach.
This daily rhythm has helped me become more productive, but it’s also provided me with a healthy work-play balance. Because of this, I’ve been able to run a business, dig into hobbies I enjoy, spend time with friends, and give my marriage the attention it deserves.
My husband, Zach, and I have been married for four years, and we’re still not talking about kids. We want a family one day, but we’re serial entrepreneurs. I guess you could say that business has been our baby from the get-go. Although, I am WAY too excited to announce that we are getting a new puppy in a few weeks. Her name is Murphy, she’s a rhodesian ridgeback, and she’s already amazing-beautiful-perfect…and we haven’t even met her yet.
Working for yourself full time can definitely be as wonderful-fantastic-amazing as everyone thinks it is, but a balanced daily rhythm full of compassion, discipline and consistency is an absolute necessity. And while my rhythm certainly won’t work for everyone, there’s one out there that will.
Alycia and her husband, Zach, live New York above a publishing company that refuses to print her books despite her persuasive baking efforts…who knew it was so easy to say no to warm banana bread? She’s into fresh coffee, pondering the state of her existence, and rolling around on her yoga mat until her joints pop.
For more ramblings on marriage and various existential topics, connect with her on Instagram @alycia.curtis or on her blog at alyciacurtis.com. She’s always looking for more newlywed besties.
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